Thanks for following along with me on my journey on How My Date with Destiny Found Me. And, if you haven’t read it yet, see How My Date with Destiny Found Me – Part 1.
In this rather long post, I’d like to answer a few questions for you:
- How much were the overall costs and breakdown of expenses for Date with Destiny?
- How would you honestly describe your experience at Tony Robbin’s Date with Destiny Seminar? What’s it like to be in room with Tony Robbins LIVE?
- What are the major distinctions/breakthroughs you came away with after attending Date with Destiny? How has it changed your life?
- Was it worth it? Why??
You Paid How Much??
As you read in Part 1, I had $10,000 literally fall into my lap that I wasn’t expecting right when I needed it. Talk about catalyst! There was no denying a message from someone! 😉
So, of course, I reinvested that $10,000 promptly on my final day of UPW (Unleash the Power Within) and signed up for Mastery University which is a package of three different seminars combined (Date with Destiny, Life Mastery, & Wealth Mastery) at a significant discount vs. if you purchase them separately (purchased separately they amount to ~$24,000 for all 3). You then have 2.5 years to attend these events at your discretion.
But, let’s back up a touch. Spending $10,000 is NOT an easy decision by any stretch of the imagination. In fact, I was downright skeptical at the beginning which is what kept me from acting the first time they presented the offer. “What’s their angle?” “Surely they are benefiting far more than I am.” were thoughts that raced through my head.
Even after I did the sign-up, and up until a few weeks ago, I was still second guessing myself. But, at some point, I finally relinquished control and just let it in God’s hands. No more worrying, and if worse came to worse, I could always turn in your materials 1/2 way through the seminar for a full refund (which I probably wouldn’t have done anyways because of pride).
So, the worse possible case scenario was I was out $10,000. I could live with that. When I really started to think about it, I’ve lost tens of thousands of dollars in a single day on paper. And while I wouldn’t like it, I’d be okay and life would move on.
Date with Destiny – Boca Raton, FL – 2015
Date with Destiny – Cost Breakdown
So, the entry-level cost of Date with Destiny (DWD) retails for $7,995. I suspect however that most people typically pay closer in the range of $4,500 to $6,500 on average if purchased as an add-on, or with some sort of discount. (Note: If you’ve really got a lot of excess cash, there are some premium options available as well.)
The DWD seminar is offered only once per year in the U.S. (Florida this year) and only one other date internationally (Australia).
I was originally going to wait an entire year to attend DWD, but it just happened to work out with my wife and Grandma’s schedule in December this year and I pulled the trigger. I couldn’t be luckier to have such a great support system at home.
The actual seminar was held at the Boca Raton Resort (Waldorf Astoria). By the time I signed up, the entire hotel was already booked and that was probably a good thing considering it was ~$400/night! So, I found a modest Hilton Doubletree a couple of miles down the road for $125/night which was much more in line with my budget. (After all, I’d only be sleeping here a few hours each day).
I was able to book a relatively cheap flight on Spirit Airlines for ~$400 round trip (including luggage and seating fees – optional paid features on Spirit) from San Diego. I had one layover each way in Houston, but since it was the same plane, I didn’t even need to de-board when I arrived which was nice & convenient.
You do need to handle food on your own for the most part. The hotel obviously has some options for you, but a lot of people end up packing food and drink for the entire day. It’s entirely possible that Tony can get up on stage and not leave the room for 10+ hours without taking a single bathroom break…. seriously. About half the days, we were provided with some sort of meal like a wrap or soup, but just come prepared – you don’t want to miss anything!
The Tony Robbin’s LIVE Event Experience
So, I’ll do my best to describe my experience, but no combination of words will fully color the experience as it was.
The first day of Date with Destiny started on Tuesday, December 15th. I arrived a touch early around 9:30 am in order to check-in and get my badge.
The place was alive with energy and you could feel the excitement and anticipation from 2800 overachievers buzzing around the room!
We were finally let in the room around 10:30 am and we had a little time to meet the people around us.
Just an FYI, for the last 20 some years, I’ve been a pretty shy introverted individual that always keeps to myself. But, in this environment, you couldn’t help but feel connected to everyone around you and striking up conversations was easy and fun!
So before Tony hits the stage (the same holds true for UPW), they have a team of people who gets the crowd on their feet. The room starts to get dark and the music starts bumpin’ like a crazy party.
Oh yeah, Tony keeps the room incredibly COLD in order to keep himself and all of us awake throughout the seminar. Guys typically love this, but the gals usually come dressed in many layers including ski parkas! Nevertheless, once you start dancing around, things warm up quickly.
I should also note that I was always the person that was “too cool” to dance. So, with some heavy reservation, I decided to let loose and inhale the full experience while I was there. Thankfully I did because you will get whatever out of this experience, what you put in.
Tony’s philosophy is to train in an immersive environment, so the days ARE long. On average, we would end around 2:00 am in the morning and then reconvene the following day around 9:30 am. So, it is intense. But it’s done in a way that is engaging and entertaining. Honestly, you don’t really even notice the time flying by! That’s why I highly encourage you to attend at least ONE of his LIVE seminars before you make any judgment. (Checkout UPW as a great entry-level event to understand what I’m talking about.)
As soon as Tony hits the main stage, the place goes NUTZ. I mean crazy! You’ll find people jumping up and down the aisles, standing on their chairs, and yelling at the top of their lungs. And if you don’t think that’s enough, he then tells you to take it up another notch and to “really go for it!”.
When he’s finally ready to have you sit down, you can imagine you’re in a pretty pumped up state. And that’s the KEY.
While it’s fun and entertaining to go wild in a seminar, that’s actually NOT the point of doing it. The point is to get yourself into a peak state of physiology because that’s the point where your brain is the most receptive to training and learning.
Tony’s presence is dynamic, to say the least. He’s got a raw intensity about him and he doesn’t sugar coat anything. In fact, he likes to use colorful language at times, simply to drive home points. And yet, you can also feel he’s got an incredibly huge and compassionate heart. He’s not there for the money (his companies already generate $5B in annual revenues), he’s there because he genuinely cares about each person in that room.
The first thing Tony tells you is that “I’m not here to be your guru. I’m not here to tell you that positive thinking is the answer. That’s bullshit. I’m just a guy. A guy that has been fortunate enough to work with millions of people and have uncovered specific patterns from some of the most successful people around the world. Along the way, I’ve developed tools and strategies to help you to live an extraordinary life. But, it’s up to YOU to do the hard work.”
Tony Robbins is a master story-teller. He’s able to engage you with stories we can all relate to, and in the process, you are able to make associations and distinctions within.
He also engages the audience each day and brings forth individuals to share their personal stories about why they are there. I can’t even begin to tell you how inspiring some of these stories are. And while I’d love to share some of them, I also promised to keep them confidential. So, guess I’ll just have to share my own! 🙂
Breakthrough #1 – Change Your Focus, Change Your Life
So DWD is all about taking back full control over your own life and achieving at a level you desire. But, in order to get to that place, we had to first really understand what drives us now and peel back the layers of fear that are holding us back.
One of the most powerful distinctions which Tony talks about is our 6 Human Needs.
Everyone at some level has all of these needs. And the way that we value these needs ultimately shapes the model of the world as we live it.
In fact, we typically have a specific hierarchy of how we value these needs and the top two are called our Primary Needs. Depending on how we value each of these, will ultimately dictate how we filter the world around us and create the rules and stories we live by.
Let me use myself as an example here…
When I honestly asked myself where I used to live the majority of my life, I realized that I valued SIGNIFICANCE and CERTAINTY above all my other needs.
So is this good, or bad? Well, it’s actually a combination of both.
Valuing these as my primary needs has given me incredible drive over the course of my life. It’s allowed me to achieve at levels outside my peer group (SIGNIFICANCE) and given me a lot of CERTAINTY by finding financial freedom by 30.
On the flip side, valuing SIGNIFICANCE would leave me stressed, worried about what others thought about me, and ultimately I was disconnected with those closest around me. The drive for CERTAINTY has also stunted my dreams of what is possible for myself and left me minimizing my God-given talents in exchange for comfort.
This understanding then led to uncovering the Primary Question I’ve been asking myself most of my life. It’s a question that I asked myself so often, I didn’t even realize I was asking it!
How can I become more significant in order to get people to like me?
It sounds a bit silly now when I see it written out, but by being completely honest with myself, I realized that this question was driving me at a sub-conscious level. The more I thought about it, the more it makes sense. The fear of not being enough -> the fear of not being loved.
So being able to see this question on paper really allowed me to see that my main driver for SIGNIFICANCE was the main reason I wasn’t able to love/connect with others. Operating from a place of SIGNIFICANCE and CERTAINTY didn’t allow me to be vulnerable. Catch 22!
But here’s the best thing. Once I uncovered this, I had the opportunity to re-evaluate my primary needs. Remember, YOU are not a function of your past.
YOU get to re-write and re-order your needs if you so choose.
So, here’s my new order of needs today:
One of the best distinctions is that if I serve others through love first, everything will cascade downwards from here.
Love/connection -> Contribution -> Growth -> Variety -> Significance -> Certainty
This literally changes my entire focus in life. It will change how I communicate with friends and family. It will change the way that I write. I’m finally writing from the inside out (from my heart), vs. the outside in (from my head).
This change in order also directly affects my primary question. It has now become:
How can I love and enjoy even more in this moment now?
This one simple distinction and shift in focus changes everything. The more I ask this question of myself, the richer my life has become.
I’ve already found myself reaching out to others that I previously wouldn’t have before. I’m filled with gratitude for all the blessings in my life, both good and bad. Because ultimately, every life experience is what led up to the gift of TODAY.
This also really changes my focus internally and I’m more clear with my 10-year plan than ever before. My purpose and mission are to help others to live a rich life. I intend on doing this by helping others to grow their finances and simultaneously helping them to uncover their WHY for building wealth.
My vision is to help as many people as I can to build wealth in a manner that leaves them fulfilled, happy all along the way, and eager to receive/contribute more than they ever thought possible.
This will be entirely apparent in this site moving forward, and also as I begin to launch my coaching services in 2016.
Breakthrough #2 – An Intimate Relationship without Intimacy is Just a Friendship
The second major breakthrough I made at DWD was around relationships. Specifically, around how I can reconnect with my wife at a level we haven’t been at for years now.
I’ve been together with my wife now for over 18 years (10 of which we’ve been married).
There is absolutely no denying that we love each other, but if you asked me the level of passion that we’ve had over the past several years, I’d have given it a 2/10. That’s harsh I know, but it’s true. We loved each other dearly, but we were missing the intimacy that we once had.
I think both of us at some level just figured it’s a part of life and a phase you need to go through. BS.
“Unless it’s mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it’s a waste of your time. There are too many mediocre things in life. Love shouldn’t be one of them.”
– Dream for an Insomniac
When Tony told us there was a way to get back to where we were when we first met, I was super excited, but with reservation. I didn’t want to get my hopes up to high.
But, he spent an entire day focused on relationships and I was hooked. We learned about:
6 Different Positions of a Relationship
- Position 1 – A magnificent relationship with love & passion.
- Position 2 – A relationship with love, but little or no passion.
- Position 3 – A relationship with not much love and not much passion.
- Position 4 – You are planning your escape.
- Position 5 – You are not in a relationship but want to be in one.
- Position 6 – You are not in a relationship and don’t want to be in one.
Based on this, I quickly identified with Position 2 (as did a large majority of the room).
What Tony taught next was invaluable.
We learned about relationship stressors that can cause a marriage or long-term relationship to deteriorate over time.
Why does attraction diminish over time?
We learned how depolarization occurs when masculine energy and feminine energy are not fully expressed between one and other. This can lead to irritation, frustration, stacking, and stonewalling (shutting each other out).
So, what can we do to escape this common pattern?
It’s shockingly simple, but it boils down to understanding ourselves first and finally understanding each other. I can’t cover everything we learned in detail, but here are some quick notes you can use TODAY to improve your relationship.
Men, try this with your woman.
- Give her attention, ALL the time!!
- Be completely present with her, ALL the time!
- Give her reassurance, ALL the time!
If you do this, your woman ain’t going ANYWHERE! 😉
Remember, being present with your woman means you are really listening and empathizing with her. She doesn’t want you to FIX IT!! (No matter how much you want to.) She simply wants to be understood and heard. Just beyond that rant/rambling is an incredibly beautiful state and your woman will LOVE you for it.
It’s not easy to do necessarily, but you do it because you’re a man and you’d do anything for the woman you love. Let her know that you would fight to the death for her and never let anything happen to her so long as you live. Make her FEEL it.
Women, try this with your man.
- Admire and appreciate him for who he is!
- Be open, vulnerable, and playful!
- Give him FREEDOM and love!
If you do this, your man ain’t going ANYWHERE! 😉
Masculine energy needs to run wild like a stallion. Embrace this and let your man run free. You will find yourself feeling more loved and safer than ever before. Embrace your playful nature and share your innate sensuality. It will drive him crazy!
Remember, building an extraordinary and fulfilling relationship starts with YOU. Always ask the question, “How can I give even more of myself to meet my partner’s needs at the deepest levels? How can I get addicted to finding new ways to making him/her happy?
I can’t tell you how excited I was to get back home to my wife and just be present with her. In fact, I shared openly with my entire group.
Let’s just say, it’s been an explosive past week home! Wow. I’d say we jumped from a 2 all the way to a 9!
Now I’m not naive enough to think it’s always going to be peaches and roses from here on in, but just to know that we can get back to where we once were (Position 1) is so incredibly exciting on so many levels. Boo yah!!
So, was Date with Destiny worth it?
How could I ever place a price tag on finding the core of who I AM? Or, having the opportunity to write my own destiny exactly as I see and feel it? Or, learning the ultimate strategies to show up as the best version of myself for my wife and children… PRICELESS.
How could I ever place a price tag on resurrecting my marriage from a slow emotional death that brings back passion, purpose, and joy?! PRICELESS.
Would I have known what I was going to uncover any of this before attending the event?
Absolutely not. It took a leap of faith, moving beyond my comfort zone, & a $10k intervention!
My New Outlook
So in the end (or shall I say, the beginning), it looks like My Date with Destiny found me.
Someone/something/God/the Universe was looking out for me and I am sooooo thankful that I was given these gifts of clarity. I can’t thank Tony and his team enough for facilitating this journey and I will always be a raving fan. I met some incredible people at DWD who will be friends for life and I can’t wait to explore my next Tony Robbins event.
The world is my oyster and I want it ALL. I want my income and lifestyle to be a full reflection of how many people I am able to serve and help. If I’m doing an outstanding job, my life will continue to flourish. I don’t expect it to be an easy road, but it will be one paved with new blessings around each and every corner. Life is about possibility, NOT settling for good.
Finally, I don’t believe you’ve read this post on accident. I think you were supposed to (as weird and strange as that may sound!). And, maybe, just maybe… you’ll find some inspiration to trust your gut and step over any fear holding you back currently. If you do, I believe you’ll begin to feel the wind of God’s grace upon your back and begin to realize it’s always been there all along.
All I can say at this point is that if you have the means, find a way to get to one of Tony’s LIVE events. You won’t regret it.
Know that it’s not a matter of changing into someone you’d like to be, rather a remembrance of who you ALREADY ARE at your core. If you truly embrace your essence, life will blossom and flourish well beyond your wildest dreams. It’s freedom that is unlike anything I’ve ever known, and I lovingly wish this for YOU.
Readers, I’ve only just scratched the surface of what I’ve learned, but I fully intend on sharing more with you over the coming year. Thanks for taking the time to read my longest post to date! 😉 I’d love to hear any of your thoughts or questions. Cheers!
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